Breaking Free from People Pleasing: 5 Strategies to Overcome the Need for Approval
Are you someone who struggles with constantly seeking approval and validation from others?
Do you often put the needs and wants of others before your own, even if it means sacrificing your own happiness?
If so, you may be a people pleaser. While it’s important to be kind and considerate of others, constantly seeking approval and sacrificing your own needs can be detrimental to your mental health and overall well-being.
Here are five strategies to help you break free from people pleasing and live a more fulfilling life.
1. Recognize and acknowledge your patterns
The first step to overcoming people pleasing is to recognize and acknowledge your patterns. Pay attention to when you feel the need to say yes to someone else’s request, even if it’s not in your best interest. Ask yourself why you feel the need to please others and what underlying beliefs or fears are driving your behavior. Understanding the root of your people pleasing tendencies is key to breaking free from them.
2. Set boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries is essential to overcoming people pleasing. This means learning to say no when you need to and being clear about your own needs and wants. Start by setting small boundaries and gradually work your way up to more challenging ones. Remember that it’s okay to prioritize your own needs and that saying no doesn’t make you a bad person.
3. Practice self-care
Practicing self-care is essential for anyone struggling with people pleasing. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as reading, exercise, or spending time in nature. Prioritizing self-care can help you feel more centered and grounded, which can in turn help you make healthier choices for yourself.
4. Challenge your beliefs
People pleasing often stems from a belief that your worth is tied to the approval of others. Challenging this belief is key to breaking free from people pleasing. Remind yourself that your worth is inherent and not dependent on external validation. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes or disappoint others.
5. Seek support
Breaking free from people pleasing can be challenging, and it’s important to seek support if you need it. Consider seeking the help of a therapist or life coach who can provide guidance and support as you work through your people pleasing tendencies. Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you to prioritize your own needs and wants.
Breaking free from people pleasing takes time and effort, but it’s worth it. By learning to set healthy boundaries, prioritize self-care, challenge your beliefs, and seek support when needed, you can overcome people pleasing and live a more fulfilling life.
This article is courtesy of Aaron Solly, Founder of Engage Coaching Group